I’ve come to the conclusion that with few exceptions, women in general are just bad. I get that everyone has their flaws, but seriously, girls are the worst. With guys, if you do wrong by a dude, things can usually be settled with conversation over a beer, a fist fight then a beer, or a simple “What the actual fuck?”. But girls will attempt the conversation and 9 times out of ten, regardless of the outcome (smiles and hugs or curses and gestures), they’ll still walk away hating each others’ guts and not talk for a very long time. When it comes to an exchange between a guy and girl, the only seemingly real way to tell that everything is a-ok again is if you ended the conversation with sex. Now, sex isn’t the only way to be sure that everything’s fine again, but without it, we all know there’ll always be some grudge left afterwards -as misogynistic and bad as that sounds.
I always have and always will live by one philosophy with relationships: There’s always a “reacher” and a “settler”. What I mean if you don’t understand is that one person (it can be either the guy or girl) is always better all around than the other i.e. looks, body, personality, intellect, family, money etc. It’s important to know which role you play in this philosophy, because things can end badly if you aren’t aware. In the best case scenario, the trade offs are very evenly stacked and the gap between the reacher and settler is fairly small. The case that I’m focusing on here though, is the worst.
If you are ever the settler, watch out. Reachers always have a motive, and most of the time it’s easily masked and hidden. Once they have achieved that motive, or found a better mode to pursue it, you’re either set or history. And the latter is just the ugly truth. With the help of good friends, who know what you’ve got and what your plans are, you can usually circumvent the earth-shattering loss and defeat of realizing you’ve been used. I’m not saying don’t trust your potential partner, but security and pride are two feelings that can make good people do bad things.
This brings me back to my original point: Girls are evil. Through personal experience, girls tend to be the reachers. My prime example is the hot model-type dating the office nerd. Is she really going out with him? Yes. Why?! Because he’s smart, maybe funny, and has money. Yes, she may be hot and great at parties, but she probably doesn’t have a cent in the bank and/or she’s dumb as a rock and/or she’s high maintenance etc. etc. The worst part is that he doesn’t know or he does and he’s blinded by the few dazzling qualities that she does have.
I recently experienced a situation much like this first-hand. I had a sweet, fun, and cute girl that was a little attention deprived on my hands. She appreciated the time and effort put into things, such as ties into her favorite movies or interests, and small gifts. But, something, or should I say, someONE, new and exciting came along, and she was gone in a heartbeat. It was devastating. No one could believe it, including my family and friends. And I’m still reeling from the shock, telling myself that there’s got to be more to the story. Some unseen, offstage happening that caused this. But I have no explanation other than the fact that she has ALREADY moved on in a few short months. A little too quick on the uptake, no?
It’s unsettling that things like this happen day to day around the world. I mean, I’m sure I’m not the only person that has gone through something even a little similar to this. But it only leads me to believe at this juncture in my life that one thing is for certain: Girls are evil.